Mother Studies Summer Accelerated Class: A Student’s Reflections

As posted on the website, we are underway with the seven-week intensive course offered through the museum, “Introduction to Mother Studies.” The course explores key questions related to motherhood, feminism, and the family – issues that the museum seeks to bring awareness to as an institution of thought. We are happy to share a glimpse into week one of the course, which has delved into the rich foundational text, Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution by Adrienne Rich, as well as a quick introduction to Sociology and a couple of short films about birth.

In Of Woman Born, Rich gives an in-depth historical, social, and economic context to motherhood.

Patriarchy would seem to require, not only that women shall assume the major burden of pain and self-denial for the furtherance of the species, but that a majority of the species – women – shall remain essentially unquestioning and unenlightened. On this “underemployment” of female consciousness depend the morality and the emotional life of the human family. Like his predecessors of fifty and a hundred and more years ago, [theorist] Hampshire sees society as threatened when women begin to choose the terms of their lives. Patriarchy could not survive without motherhood and heterosexuality in their institutional forms; therefore, they have to be treated as axioms, as “nature” itself, not open to question except where, from time to time, and place to place, “alternative life-styles” for certain individuals are tolerated (Rich 1986).

Below is a response paper to the reading/viewing assignments from week.

“Repossession by women of our bodies will bring far more essential change to human society than the seizing of the means of production by workers” (Rich 1986). Though succinct, Rich has loaded this quote with key points of her thesis in Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution. Embedded in it is Rich’s plea for women to reclaim consciousness and agency over their bodies, with special respect given to the institution of motherhood. The reference to Marx is intentional, as theory has pointed at capitalism as the root cause of the domestication of motherhood. However, as has been the primary feminist complaint of the father of socialism, Marx has overwhelmingly failed to account for gender in his observations of the proletariat – and this applies in the family, too. Though perhaps the reason for women’s reign over the domestic sphere, the subversion of women’s bodies occurs much deeper than in economics and cannot seek absolution from economics, as Engels would suggest. In Of Woman Born Rich maps the subjugation of women by the patriarchy and shows how this has extended to motherhood and the family.

If we understand sociology to be “the scientific study of human society – its institutions and people’s social behavior”, then borrowing Rich’s wisdom we will most certainly see patriarchal influences at work within medical institutions. The more egregious manifestations of this, of course, are in birthing practices that treat labor as an ailment in Western cultures, which she explores in the chapter, Alienated Labor (again, a nod to Marx). However, the less insidious assertions of male dominance in the medical field (but perhaps the most devastating) are in medical language itself. Anthropologist Emily Martin has devoted several publications to analyzing the use of masculine language when framing processes within human sexual reproduction. In the short medical video, Fertilization,” we hear phrases describing the life-cycle of the sperm as “a perilous journey against incredible odds,” “strength,” and “swimming harder and faster” amid a backdrop of language that describes the female reproductive system as an “acidic environment” (Nucleus Medical Media 2013). Presumably, Rich would attribute this what she sees as men’s fear of women’s ability to bear new life and of “her apparent power to affect the male genitals.” So of course, in a routine video describing the fertilization of an egg, the women’s system would a hostile, acidic environment designed to hinder the powerful sperm facing incredible odds.

Adrienne Rich
Adrienne Rich

Rich says that with this intrinsic fear of women’s bodies came men’s decided action to shackle the divine worship of women’s power. Women’s bodies, once revered and worshipped as an aspect of the hunt – a matter of survival for Neolithic cultures – were later looked at as forces to be controlled. However, where Rich’s argument falls short for me is in its ability to situate the rise of patriarchal dominance across all the diverse cultures she mentions. In one instance, she talks about the devaluing of goddesses in ancient Greece and credits another theorist’s explanation for this:

He theorizes that this fear of maternal woman derived from the sexual politics of fifth-century Greece, where women were ill-educated, were sold into marriage, and had no role except as producers of children, the sexual interest of men was homoerotic, and for intellectual friendships a man sought out hetaeras…or other men. He assumes the mother to have been filled with resentment and envy of her sons, and in frustration, excessively controlling of her male children in their earliest years. Her feelings would have been experienced by her sons as a potentially destructive hostility which is later embodied in mythology and classical drama.

This is one theory of the social climate in ancient Greece that caused the transformation of goddesses’ role in mythology. But what, exactly, brought about the patriarchal awakening across other cultures, in the same time period?

It would seem that if repossessing our bodies would do more to boost women’s power than the overthrow of capitalism, we should know how to dismantle the very patriarchal notions that have caused it subdominance in the first place.

Online Classes in Mother Studies Have Started [CLICK]

Online classes have started.

The Museum of Motherhood is proud to launch online classes in Mother Studies [LINK]. Organized and taught by Martha Joy Rose, BFA, MA, who is a pioneer in the field, the first session will be offered as part of a seven week summer intensive called “Introduction to Mother Studies.

Mother Studies is a field of interdisciplinary study devoted to the issues, experiences, topics, history, and culture of mothers, mothering, and motherhood.

This bold new experiment aims to increase understanding and expand dialogue within the academic, and para-academic realm of Mother Studies: also known as Motherhood Studies, Mothering Studies, and Maternal Studies.

We look forward to adding additional classes in the future. If you have a course ready to go, and want to bring it to the Museum of Motherhood community, please write us at MOMmuseum@gmail.com

Registration is open currently closed for the 7 week summer accelerated class: (Summer schedule is June 15 – July 27).

Registration for the fall semester begins July 15 here.

All coursework takes place online and can be completed according to your personal schedule.

  • Learn about key issues facing mothers in the United States
  • Gain knowledge about the history of American motherhood
  • Understand theories of race, class, and gender
  • Learn about motherhood and feminism
  • Experience the art of motherhood
  • Understand how American family policies compare to other countries’
  • Empower your life through knowledge
  • Understand your personal position relative to dominant ideologies
  • Be part of an intellectual movement and supportive community

Who Should Take This Class: This course is appropriate for college students, professionals, and para-academics (laypeople) interested in expanding their knowledge base. Materials are presented from an interdisciplinary perspective, and are devoted to the issues, experiences, topics, history, and culture of mothers, mothering, and motherhood. This class can also serve as a launching point for those hoping to write about motherhood and whom may wish to submit to the Journal of Mother Studies (JourMS) for publishing credit.

Tango For Equal Rights

By, Jenny Nigro; social media intern for M.O.M.

M.O.M. social media intern Jenny Nigro
M.O.M. social media intern Jenny Nigro

I went to the library recently and took out an adorable book for the boy I nanny for. I’d read the book, And Tango Makes Three, before, but sharing it with him made it all the more special for me. The story is based on true events that took place several years ago at the Central Park Zoo. There, in the beloved penguin house, two male penguins began a years-long courtship and exhibited the nesting behaviors that are typical of expecting chinstrap penguin parents. Eventually, one of the zookeepers decided to give the couple their own egg to nurture and the penguins became the proud fathers to a fuzzy chick. They named her Tango because, as the book notes, “it takes two to make a Tango.” (Like I said, absolutely adorable).

No longer at the Central Park Zoo to visit, Tango’s daddies drifted apart over time and Tango was even said to have entered in a courtship with another female penguin. Their story (and subsequent book and play), though, has had a more lasting legacy – and has been the subject of much debate in family discourse. Some groups sought to ban the book immediately and protest the pairing of the penguins with their cherished little Tango egg. Others rallied around this model of parenting to assert that gay mating/parenting rituals do not defy the natural order.

The story of Tango’s dads shows us that different forms of courtship and parenting occur across nature, a phenomena which is also visible at the popular NYC Museum of Sex. MoSex, as it is shortened to, has devoted an entire exhibition to exploring the multi-faceted nature of animal sex and the “evolutionary benefits of non-reproductive sex for both individuals and social groups within the animal kingdom.” A recent visit to the museum led to my discovery of Tango’s story on display there. It turns out that our concepts of animal behavior, parenting instinct, and what it looks like to make a family have been overturned by one little chick.

With the nationwide legalization of gay marriage debate on-deck for the US Supreme Court, we will no doubt see more LGBTQ couples embark on their path to marriage and familyhood. So what can we expect for the family as we know it? Well, as research and public interest stories would indicate, most likely good things. A few years ago, a study that followed several children of lesbian couples over the span of two decades asserted that children of lesbians are psychologically better adjusted than their peers. And who can forget Zach Wahls’ touching appeal to the Iowa legislature to protect civil unions? Though little had been studied on children raised by two male parents, my sister recently did a scholarship review on studies that have looked at these models of parenting and they had similar findings: families with two daddies tend to have happy, well-adjusted kids.

So I look forward to seeing the next happy, well-adjusted generation of babies, both human and penguin, in a (hopefully) post-legalized marriage equality world. And maybe in this moment in history, it will take nine to make a tango…or at least a majority.

How Much Do You Know About Paid Family Leave in the U.S.?

M.O.M. social media intern Jenny Nigro
M.O.M. social media intern Jenny Nigro

By, Jenny Nigro

I’m ashamed to admit that I took up the paid family leave torch pretty late in life for no other reason than being completely ignorant to the issue until just a few years ago. I had heard of people going on “maternity leave,” (mostly teachers who were pregnant growing up) and assumed that this was a built-in paid benefit in most workplaces, a la sick/bereavement/vacation. As it is with their lack of other paid benefits, I figured that the only exclusions to this rule were women who worked in the service industry or under the table.

Imagine my surprise, then, a friend at my old job (yes, it was this recent) told me about her experience going on maternity leave for her second baby. Her husband had been wrongfully terminated from his job during her pregnancy. Shortly after, she was put on bed rest and was facing a serious financial hardship at the prospect of being out of work while her husband was unemployed. I asked why she couldn’t have used a combination of sick and vacation time to last until her maternity leave time kicked in, which is when she told me that she had only ever received disability during her leave with her first baby, which hadn’t even kicked in until after she had gone back to work. They had relied solely on her husband’s pay throughout her first month and a half with her son, now with an additional member of the family to feed and clothe. They no longer had this to fall back on.

We had even worked at a non-profit, which are known to make up for their low pay scales by offering decent benefit packages to employees. I had just assumed that maternity leave was a paid benefit at our job (not that I was considering starting a family…hence why I didn’t have to think about these things). But still, the only reason she saw any money at all for her time at home with her baby was because she had qualified for disability. “Maternity leave” turned out to be just a facet of FMLA, which is what people use if they need to take care of a sick family member. Welcoming a baby to a family doesn’t mean that there is an illness that needs to be tended to. It means that there is a settling in period at home, away from work duties that needs to happen for the emotional/physical health and safety of Baby and parents.

As if we didn’t have our work cut out for us with the issue of paid maternal leave here in the US, now we are watching our international contemporaries grant legislation related to paid paternal leave. The UK recently drafted a policy that would extend family leave following the birth or adoption of a baby to 50 weeks, with 39 of those subsidized. Additionally, after the first two weeks, mothers in two-earner families can transfer some of their remaining weeks to the father.

Stephanie Coontz recently posted an article to her website, which she had published in The Guardian, in which she talks about this legislation and paid family leave. See article here. To sum up what she says on the matter, here is the Cliff Notes version:

-men would be reticent to take advantage of this benefit for fear of violating traditional gender roles and the consequent harassment that may occur at the hands of their peers

-once some dads take this family leave options, others are likely to follow suit

-the best way to encourage more dads to opt in would be to set up a use-it-or lose-it quota system rel

-taking family leave time is likely to change men’s behavior around the home for years after their leave

-households run better when dads have more of a hand in family responsibilities

– acts that destabilize traditional gender roles, including paternal leave, have been shown to not undermine the institution of marriage, as some family discourse would have you think, but instead, strengthen familial bonds

There is certainly a lot of food for thought in Coontz’ arguments/research, but it still begs the question: should we be advocating for men’s paid leave or focusing our energies on paid maternal leave to start?